Five Lessons I Learned in 2017

Happy New Year! On a business level, 2017 was an, exciting, fun and crazy year full of ups and downs. Like at the close of any year, I always like to look back at lessons I’ve picked up along the way.

On Fear

  1. Most of you probably don’t know this, but I hurt my back powerlifting early in the year. I don’t like to talk about it, but I was in a lot of pain — so much that I really couldn’t move one of my legs. I was out of commission for a bit and while I recuperated, I had this feeling that I hadn’t been living to my full potential. Sure, I’ve traveled and I have a business. Don’t get me wrong, I love those things and they’re great accomplishments. I just couldn’t escape this feeling that I haven’t left a lasting impact on this world. I haven’t made a tangible difference in the lives of others. Some of you might say that’s silly and that I do that through my business, but I wanted to do something completely selfless that would make the world a better place. The seed for Expedition Subsahara was planted. If you would have told me a year ago that by the end of 2017, I would have another business, a business partner and would be working toward building a school in Africa, I probably would have called you crazy. Yet here we are. My first lesson is an old one that I’ve learned again, only a different way. Fear is not the absence of being scared, it’s tackling a goal in spite of that fear. I’ve made that leap, and I’ve never been so scared in my life.

    More On Fear

  2. When you’re going after something big, I’ve learned that people will project their fears onto you. They don’t do it from a bad place and for the most part, people want you to be successful. Most people stop at the door to fear. I get that. It’s human nature to be scared of failure. So when people tell me my goals are too high, they’re not achievable, or that my goals can’t be done, I have to learn not to listen. I think at the beginning of this new adventure, we let other people’s fears occupy space in our hearts. We can’t do that. Yes, what we’re trying to do is ambitious. On the other hand, every single great thing began as pure ambition and the drive to get it to completion.

    On Weddings

  3. I learned that sometimes, personalities just don’t work together. While this might be controversial to say, it’s OK to not choose wedding vendor based on personality. Your wedding photographer will be the vendor who most helps you plan your day. Your photographer will be the person who you spend the most time with on your wedding day. If you’re newly engaged and just starting to choose vendors, don’t just look at the cost. Portfolio, communication style and personality are all important factors in your decision. The best advice I have is to choose someone who you might be friends with and invite to your wedding. They’ll tell your story the very best.

On Being You

4. There’s no wrong way to be a woman. You do you. Enough said.

      More On Being You

5. There is also, no wrong way to be in love. There’s no wrong way to plan your engagement or your wedding — just how you dreamed it growing up. Putting your heart out there is risky, but as long as you’re in love, being true to yourself is a beautiful thing.

Cheers to 2017 and the lessons learned (or relearned). We wish you nothing but the best in the new year! Happy New Year!! 

Stay fierce!