Trust has a seriously simple definition. According to Merriam Webster:
- a: assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something
b: one in which confidence is placed
Yet, it can be unbelievably hard to put into practice. Another dictionary used the example “good relationships are built on trust.” In the wedding photography business (or just wedding business in general), I’m not sure truer words can be spoken. I get it; weddings can be stressful! There are so many moving parts and vendors to coordinate. Not all vendors are created equal, and if you’ve had a bad experience with one or two, it’s easy to lump us all into the “just do your job and we’ll be fine” category. I’ve seen this happen to perfectly nice couples more than once.
But photography is different.
You can’t not trust your photographer and still get great photos. You can get good photos, and you might even like them, but to truly love your wedding photos — a higher level of trust isn’t just suggested, it’s required. I’m reminded of a quote by Ansel Adams “The single most important component of a camera is the twelve inches behind it.” You have to trust the person behind the camera. You have to believe that they know what they’re doing. Couples should trust that they know the lighting, their equipment, poses and everything in between. If they say “this isn’t going to work,” you have to be know that person well enough to be able to work through it and that what they’re saying is a fact, not just their opinion.
I feel like trust is the absolute best gift you can give your photographer. Trust them to help you set the pace for your timeline and then enough to listen when they ask you to do something. There’s always method to our madness, a reason for our requests. While it might not make sense at the time, just know that we wouldn’t be asking if it wasn’t to get the perfect shot.
That’s Why I Love My Clients
I have been so blessed to have clients who trust me to capture their day in the most amazing way I know how. It’s not like we talk about this process and trust, it just happens. And it’s mutual. My point is, first, that it’s really important to find vendors for your wedding that you trust. Secondly, if you have hesitations, it’s important to voice and work through them. Trust me, you won’t be sorry!